While we were away for a week, my sister dropped in for two or three hours a day to check in on my mom. From this experience, she came to some new ideas about things that we were not to happy about...
She said she thought my mom was having too hard a time with us living with her and we should think about moving out as soon as possible! It wasn't a command or anything, but it was her opinion.
I can't even explain how upset this made me. I actually wrote out a few paragraphs detailing all the reasons why it upset me, but deleted them because I couldn't stand to hear myself rant. But the two main reasons are 1) We don't think it is safe for my mom to be living alone, and 2) We are completely overwhelmed with the idea of moving again so quickly! We uprooted our whole lives at a moment's notice immediately after experiencing a personal tragedy (our miscarriage) and we need some time to regroup. Otherwise I'm pretty sure I will have a nervous breakdown!
Believe me, I would love to get out of here and have our own place. But I think we need to get more information from the specialists and test results (still pending) before making such big changes. There are far more reasons to stay than to go.
The uncertainty of this situation is just unbearable sometimes.
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Wow, I couldn't help but think that was an incredibly selfish comment that she didn't think through all the way. It's got to be hard on her to realize her Mother is no longer capable of taking care of herself. I commend you for being your Mothers advocate, AND, your sisters sounding board. I hope you're taking care of yourself through all of this.
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I know she really has our mom's best interests in mind, but I don't think you can really have a clear picture of things when you don't spend a few consecutive 24-hour periods with her. It's more complicated than it seems.
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